The Idea Of Posting Photos Of Lorenzo On Social Media – Daddy Blog #05

I have a friend who always knew my concern of people posting their children online in huge multiples. You’d see some proud parents who post their child’s photos every day. Now, I understand the significance of pride in a little human you’ve created but I still wonder why everyone feels the need to overshare their lives? It may be because I’m getting older but I’ve always been pretty protective of certain areas of my life and my child will fall in that category.

No photos on Facebook?

The same friend has absolutely NO photos of her children online…anywhere! You wouldn’t know they existed unless you knew them personally, visited them, or she shared photos of them. While visiting her abroad, I had taken a photo with the entire family and asked if she minded me posting it. She said she didn’t mind but I kept in mind how she’s prevented that from happening for over 10 years. I never posted the photo out of that respect and feel I would probably be the same but less limited.

Andrea and I spoke about how Lorenzo would be received and the love he’s already been given by family and friends is so overwhelming! He was loved by many before he was even conceived. Just the idea of Andrea and I having a child was enough for some to express their hope for Arizona/the world. It sounds crazy to me saying it out loud because he isn’t the resurrection of Jesus, just Lorenzo the Mango aka The Zodiaz; a chip off his father’s block! And I love that about how everyone has already treated him.

Ok, what about a few photos?

But what about his image online? Will that love magnify or will people get sick of him or even use him as a target? The paranoia is real and his privacy should be contained as he grows and gets older. Now, I’m not one to keep him under wraps. As a photographer, I’ll be taking plenty of photos of my son from birth till I die. That’s just what a proud parent does. But which photos will be shared with others individually and which will be shared online? I’m obviously going to post SOME online but it won’t be a huge posting every day. I may do the one-month thing people do which is always adorable and a great way to keep people informed. That would come out to at least 12 per year. That’s not bad at all.

But those who post damn near 12 per day? Look…I can’t lie, a lot of times I scroll by because the kid looks the same and it diminishes the special times’ someone wants to share a photo or update of their child. And that’s their prerogative. Obviously, family photos will include Lil Zo in them as well. But emptying out my iPhone photo database onto Facebook and Instagram won’t be in my mind to do. My pride won’t end because I’m sharing his photos to the planet. In fact, respecting his and his mom’s privacy, as well as holding some things personally between us both is more intimate as our family grows.

I don’t blame others for their pride!

I can’t speak for others who do overshare their child’s photos and I see their pride and joy and love for their children. But I understand why so many others don’t post many photos of their offspring. I hope those who would like to see photos of Lorenzo privately, would reach out to Andrea or myself personally to do so. Of course, even that list will be restricted. But for now, sharing a few photos of his sonogram is ok to us. But even then, most haven’t seen the ones we hold personal…such as the 3D renderings.

What do you all think?

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